Untying the Knot
| Staff Writers
Untying the Knot
In 2012, 2.4 million people got divorced in the U.S. That’s 1.2 million couples that started out with high expectations, only to have everything fall apart; that’s also approximately 1.5 million children left with a broken home. So what’s happening and can anything be done to keep the love?
40%-50% of today’s marriages end in divorce.
Approximately 10% of first marriages that end in divorce within the first 5 years
The median time together when most couples divorce (3)
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So the “seven-year itch” is kinda true?
Austrian philosopher/teacher Rudolf Steiner believed in this phenomenon, citing an astrology-based theory that human experiences change physically and mentally every seven years.
- Many couples have navigated the trying infant years to realize they don’t want to be together anymore
- Couples can experience a loss in excitement
- Once tolerable habits are now annoying
The Kid Factor
Couples are 4½ times more likely to split up after the three-year mark when they have young children rather than the seven-year mark.
- Juggling careers with parenting in addition to changing gender roles has proved tough on relationships.
- Couples have less time together before starting a family.
“Perhaps some women hear the biological clock ticking and start looking for a father rather than a boyfriend.” English parenting website (netmums.com) founder Siobhan Freegard, addressing the issue of women having children at an older age, but earlier in relationships, leading to a higher split-up rate
Children of divorce are at a greater risk of:
- Academic problems
- Depression and aggressive behavior during childhood and adolescence
- Drug and alcohol abuse in adolescence
- Engaging in sexual intercourse at an earlier age
- Marrying younger
- Getting divorced themselves (6)
To minimize effects of divorce:
- Keep conflict away from the kids.
- Minimize disruptions to kids’ daily routines.
- Confine negativity and blame to private therapy sessions or outside the home. (7)
A Bumpy Road …
The Cyclical Ups and Downs of Marriages
First few years
Exciting and passionate (aka honeymoon effect)
When marriages begin to falter
A drop in marital quality leads to high divorce rates
If a couple survived the first rough patch, then a second rough patch hits around this time
Third rough patch
After 20 years
Marital satisfaction tends to rise and level off (Bliss!)
Strategies to keeping a marriage strong:
- Be thoughtful and affectionate.
- Know little, but personal, details about spouse.
- Pay attention to partner’s feelings.
- Don’t let it get boring.
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